Stop the fight before it starts.
25 things couples say when they're tired, hungry or hurt, and what to say instead. Free.
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Sound familiar?
Take 1 ✗
I'm fine.
Take 2 ✓
I'm not fine yet. I feel hurt about earlier. Can we talk after dinner?
Take 1 ✗
Calm down!
Take 2 ✓
Let's both slow down. I want to understand you.
Take 1 ✗
Sorry you feel that way.
Take 2 ✓
I'm sorry I snapped at you. That wasn't fair.
What's inside
- 25 Take 1 → Take 2 swaps in 5 moments: when you're not fine, starting a hard talk, cooling a fight down, saying sorry, making up
- The soft start-up formula: "I feel ___ about ___. I need ___."
- A write-your-own Take 2 worksheet
- Our 3 house rules
9 printable pages
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Why it works
How the first three minutes of a conflict talk went predicted how the whole talk ended for newlywed couples.
Source: Carrère & Gottman, 1999
Is it for you?
Made for you if…
- You keep having the same small fights
- You want words that work in the moment
- You like short, practical tips
Not for you if…
- You want a long relationship book
- You're dealing with abuse or feeling unsafe
Questions
How do I get it?
Right after checkout you get an email with an instant download link for the PDF.
Can I print it?
Yes. It's sized for US Letter paper, and it also reads well on your phone.
Is this therapy?
No. These are tips for everyday couple moments, not therapy.
Do I need both partners?
It works best together, but it's fine to start alone.
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